Q: My significant other goes to another school. How do I deal with that?

Sally:

As busy students, it can often be hard to work in the time to have a significant other. This only becomes harder when your significant other goes to a different school (for the sake of this article we’re going to say that both of you are still in high school). But, keeping your significant other at bay during the school day is a good way to make sure that you are able to hang out with your friends and pursue your studies.

First of all, don’t text all the time. You and your significant other shouldn’t feel the need to be in constant communication just because you don’t attend the same school. Do your own thing during the school day, and catch up later in the day. With that being said, make sure you dedicate time to your significant other. That may be in the form of texting at night, grabbing a snack after school, or hanging out on the weekends. In whatever way it may be, make sure you are making a conscious effort to build time for him/her into your week.

Secondly, make sure he or she feels like he or she knows your school friends! You can invite your significant other to school events or hang outs where your school friends are there. This will make him or her feel like they know your life and friends. Plus, it’ll make your own friends feel comfortable knowing who exactly you’re spending a majority of your time with. If they care about you, they probably care about him or her too.

The bottom line is that your significant other going to another school shouldn’t have too much of an affect on how your relationship plays out.

TL;DR: It’s all about effort, so if you put time in and care about him or her, it’ll work out.

Sincerely,
Sally

Steve:

The answer is simple, it’s not a big deal unless you make it a big deal. Your relationship with your significant other should be able to last the 8 hours that you two are apart. There is plenty of time to hang out with them on the weekends, or even on weekdays provided you aren’t getting viscerally incinerated by Econ. This situation only develops into a problem if you begin to get jealous. Jealousy can ruin relationship, and when the Green Eyed Monster clambers into your ear and starts whispering about the amount of time your significant other is spending with that one guy she used to go to elementary school with, then you two need to have a conversation.

Assess the relationship that you share with her, and make sure that you are confident in the strength of your relationship. If you don’t trust your significant other enough, or conversely, your significant other doesn’t trust you, then maybe being at separate schools puts too much of a strain on your relationship and you’ll have to end things.

Additionally, don’t be that one guy who has a significant other at a different school but still feels the need to cover his bases with every single girl insight, it’s not classy and your SO will probably find out in the long run.

TL;DR: If you can’t go 5 hours without seeing your SO, then how the hell are you supposed to deal with it when they go to summer camp in Guadalupe to help the homeless? Get over yourself and see them on the weekends.

Sincerely,
Steve