What do you do if a guy likes you and your friend at the same time?
SALLY
Both of you, back off. A friendship isn’t worth ruining for a guy that is not only a player, but dumb enough to go for a girl and her best friend. Like seriously… do they think we don’t talk to our best friends?! News flash, boys: girls tell each other EVERYTHING.
We all know (most) high school guys are motivated by one thing. And we all know what that one thing is. Well, this guy definitely fits that stereotype. Even if you want something only physical and even if your friend says it’s okay to go for him, still don’t go for it. Feelings could get hurt; the other friend and the guy could still be kind of talking, the other friend could get jealous, or you could start feeling something emotional while he probably won’t. 99.9% of the time, high school relationships don’t last. But more likely than not, high school best friendships do.
Basically, friendships are way more important than hook-ups. Choose your friend in almost every situation, especially when the guy is clearly not worthy of either of your attention. And guys, only go for two best friends if you’re desperately trying to not hook up with girls.
Sincerely,
Sally
STEVE
You seriously analyze why you think he likes you and you investigate whether or not this guy has a past of being genuine with girls. Chances are if a guy is approaching you and your friend, he’s probably not even limiting his options to just you two. Try and validate his intentions so that you feel secure; otherwise this screams out “hey I’m throwing a big net and trying to catch some unlucky fish.”
Honestly, chances are you’re being played. If the guy truly “likes” you, he wouldn’t be going for your friend as well. However, it is possible that he is interested in both you and your friend and just can’t decide between the two…if this is the case, you and your friend should talk and resolve the situation between the two of you. One of you is going to have to take the lead and be more flirtatious with the guy, and the other is going to have to back away into the shadows, forcing the guy to play his hand.
Most likely his intentions are less than wholesome. This presents a unique situation. If you are okay with that, you could take the guy from your friend but realize that it is going nowhere emotionally. The other option would be, if you really liked him, to talk to him before you decide about his intentions and where he feels it was going. That being said, you have probably seen a side to him that makes you like him less, so you could always just move on and let your friend pick up what’s left.
Sincerely,
Steve
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