Best option for distance relationships between college and high school?

Sally:

Personally, I never believed I could find a guy I would marry in high school, but it is fun to have someone to spend time with in high school. When my ex boyfriend was going to college, I realized if I tried to force something, I would have ended up doing more harm to the relationship. Slowly I began to value the physical connection more than the emotional connection. If you are actually meant to be, you can be mature about it, remain friends, and connect later in life.

College is the time you should be going out, meeting new people, and experiencing new things. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend at home prevents people from having those experiences. In comparison to the amount of relationships you will have in life, high school relationships are to have fun.

From high school to college, people change so much. You will end up hating your significant other that goes to college because they will be experiencing all these fun new things while you are stuck at home. You will hate them because they will go partying, and people will post pictures of them with other girls or guys. But most importantly, you both will become significantly different people, and you will end up resenting each other for it. So here’s my suggestion if you are going to college and have a boyfriend or girlfriend at home:

1. Move the hell on, and don’t look back.
2. Don’t continue to talk to them all the time, or pretend you are still together. That’s messy business.
3. Go out and meet cute people, college is known for one-night stands
4. Don’t worry about it, because if it is meant to be you can always make it work again.
5. The person will probably get intoxicated a lot, and most likely cheat on you, and you would have no way of finding out, so consider that too.

Sincerely,

Sally

Steve

High School relationships can be a lot of fun, but when it’s time for one of you to go to college, the relationship can go south really fast. To me it seems as though there are three options. You can keep dating (risky business); you can break up, but stay in touch and see each other when they come home; or you can break up and never talk to them.

Each of these options have serious fallouts. If you do choose to keep dating you better be damn sure that you really like that person. While they are at college there’s a lot of partying and a lot of opportunities to do something stupid (you all know what I mean). Therefore, feelings can be hurt very easily. If you choose to break up and stay in touch then you still have to be careful not to do anything careless. Even though you’re broken up, you both obviously still really care about each other, and I can assure you that messing around with someone else is still not okay.

If you have a jealousy problem, then completely breaking apart is probably for you. You’ll get over them a lot faster and you don’t have to worry about what they are doing because you won’t be talking to them at all. But this also has its downside, because you will be cutting off all contact with someone that you were really close with. In the end you just have to be smart and think carefully about your decision and do what is best for you.

Sincerely, 

Steve