“How can I improve my relationship with my overbearing boyfriend? Whenever he sees me text or take a snap chat with or hang out with another guy, he gets ticked off. What can I do to have him feel more comfortable hanging out with other guys?”

Sally:

Although the jealousy may be a sign of his affection for you, it definitely isn’t healthy to be that jealous of a significant other. I could tell you to just break up with him or that he is crazy for being that jealous, but on the other hand I know how girls can be. Girls tend to push boys to that level of jealousy on purpose. In some occasions girls enjoy making their boyfriends jealous, and use guys they call “friends” to do so.

There is a certain level of trust one should have in their girlfriend or boyfriend. But at the same time there can be a reasonable cause for a guy to feel that jealousy. So if you really don’t know what your doing to make him jealous (which I assume you do), just try not to be too touchy feely with other guys in front of him. Don’t text or snap chat other guys in front of him. Don’t talk about what you do with your other guy friends if he doesn’t like it.

I know a lot of girls think that making their boyfriend jealous is a good tactic to keep them interested and intrigued with them, but the truth is that they hate it. Coming from a girl who has guys as my best friend, I know that guys end things with girls a lot of the time because they try to make them too jealous, and they end up resenting the girl.

Bottom line, continue being friends with who you like, and never let your boyfriend dictate who you spend your time with. But at the same time, keep in mind if you want the relationship to work, you have to work with your boyfriend, and see what specifically he doesn’t like. Look at things from his perspective, it will allow you to be more understanding. If he’s asking too much, maybe reconsider the relationship, but try to compromise. Don’t purposely try to make him jealous, and don’t say you don’t do that, because girls do that, I would know…

Peace,
The Homie Sally

Steve:

If you really like this guy and want to stay with him you need to sit down and have a long talk with him. If he’s that worried about you hanging out and talking to other guys then he clearly has some trust issues that you two need to work out together. Hopefully by having a long talk with him about the situation, you can clear up that you are just friends with these other guys and then your boyfriend will calm down. That’s the nicer approach that is more considerate to your boyfriends feelings, but if it doesn’t work you should go for option number two. That is just simply tell him that it’s your life and he doesn’t get to control anything you do, so he might as well get used to it. Now this is more likely to damage your relationship, but it can be used as a last resort.

On the other hand, if you don’t like this guy that much then you should get rid of him right away. If you’re just starting to date him and he already has trust issues then that relationship is going south fast, so you better get out of there. The last thing you want is to be in a relationship with some needy, overbearing boyfriend.

Sincerely,
Steve